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We would love to welcome you to celebrate your wedding together at one of the churches in our group.  Please note that St Mary's Lead is not licensed for marriages but you can have a wedding blessing there.

The information below will hopefully answer some of your questions about who can be married in our churches, the choices you have about the content of the service and accompanying aspects such as bells, choir and flowers, and how much it all costs.

If you have any further queries, or would like to book a date for your service, then please contact the Vicar, Fr Chris Wilton or the Parish Administrator on 01977 682122.

Do you have to 'go to church' at one of the churches in the Group to be married there?

No. As with any Parish Church in England, anyone who lives in the the relevant Parish automatically qualifies to be married there. If you are not sure whether you live within the parish area, you can either contact us or visit the website www.achurchnearyou.com to make sure.

In addition, you are also eligible if one of you:

  • has at any time lived in the parish for a period of at least six months or
  • was baptised ('christened') at the the relevant parish church or
  • was confirmed at that church or
  • has at any time regularly gone to normal church services in that church for a period of at least six months

OR if one of your parents, at any time after you were born:

  • has lived in the parish for a period of at least six months or
  • has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish for a period of at least six months or

OR if one of your parents or grandparents was married in that church.

If none of the above applies to you or your partner, then the remaining option is to enlist on our Electoral Roll. To do so, you can attend services of worship here regularly (i.e. at least once a month) for a period of six months or more. If you would like to consider this last option, I can let you know the times and days when services take place (or you can find them on our website).

I'm sorry this is all a bit complicated - we would love to welcome everyone here regardless of where they live, but are bound by the rules concerning Marriage Law in the UK. Do have a word with us if you're still not sure whether you qualify.

Is it a problem if one of us is divorced or if one of us is a foreign national?

No - not as a rule, however if either of these applies to you then you need to contact the vicar in the first instance rather than the office and let him know.

What other choices do we have?

The words of the service are fixed (although you can choose between the traditional or more modern language options), however any additional readings or poems, all the music and whether you want the choir, the bells or any extra flowers are all up to you. The service can be videoed if you wish and the photographer can take photos throughout (as long as they are discreet action shots during the service itself, with specially posed photos done before and after).

Do we have to get married on a Saturday?

No - it can be any day of the week (including Sundays) as long as the time slot is free. It does have to be between 8.00am and 6.00pm however (legally we can't do evening weddings yet).

How much does it all cost?

The current cost in 2016 is £526 (there is likely to be a slight annual increase for future years)

Optional extras are as follows:

  • Organist: £75 (+ £75 if the service is videoed)
  • Choir: £75
  • Bells:Sherburn  £100; Saxton £45; Barkston £10; Aberford £40

If we have been married elsewhere, could we have a 'Blessing' at one of the churches?

Yes, whether you would have just been married or are celebrating an anniversary from some years before.

As a service of 'Blessing' isn't governed by Marriage Law, you would not have to 'qualify' by living here or by one of the other categories above. There is no cost for the service itself (we invite a donation instead) but any of the extras you might wish to include would cost the same as above. If you wish to have a blessing at St Mary's Lead there will be a fee payable to The Churches Conservation Trust

Further information

More information and ideas about marriage in the Church of England can be found at www.yourchurchwedding.org